The Parent’s Attitude

  • Try to be a patient observer and a careful listener.
  • Respect your child’s individuality. Do not compare him to others, even other siblings.
  • Respect all reasonable forms of activity in which the child engages and try to understand them. Never criticise.
  • Support as much as possible the child’s desires for activity. A child’s natural spontaneity is often stifled by the well-intentioned but unnecessary intervention of adults.
  • Place your confidence in the child. An adult’s confidence in a child is in itself a compulsive force to learning.
  • By your own interest in any activity, you give it dignity and solemnity. Your child will want to do the same work.
  • As much as possible, free yourself to be with your child when the child is in need of you.
  • When the child reveals that he is not capable of handling a situation or of controlling himself, the parent should interfere. Any activity that is harmful or destructive to others should not be allowed.
  • Instead of repressing the little child who is impelled (in spite of threats and punishments) to touch everything, encourage it.
  • Rules are necessary and a part of reality. As soon as he is able to understand simple statements, the reasons for various commands should be explained to him.
  • Do not tell the child things that are not so. Little children have entire, literal faith in what they are told.
  • Give as few negative commands as possible.
  • Try not to let the child risk failure until he has a reasonable chance of success.
  • Your attitude toward error must be supportive and understanding. No longer judge but sympathise.
  • Give your child freedom to act independently. Show him how to do those things for himself he is capable of doing. Every  unnecessary help is a hindrance.
  • Most importantly, keep in mind your own limitations. You are first of all a mother, or a father, and must adapt your teaching in a way unique to yourself and your child.

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